Expectations

One on my friends sent me an email with her expectations of outcomes for losing weight.

I am scared to have so many.

It is easy for me to blame failure in the relationship on my weight. But I also know I lot of fat people in great relationships. So I do not want to state a goal of having relationship – because it is possible that I have to change much more than weight.

Improving looks might not work very well for 62 year old. I might look like 100 after losing weight. Again – that is not my goal.

Etc, etc.

For me the fear of mental disappointment is great – so I keep my expectations simple. Everything else is in the wind.